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Rhonda Used To Be An Actress

Life Coach Rhonda Britten previously had an acting career. She appeared on 'Perfect Strangers' and 'Married With Children'. See her resume at the Internet Movie Database. Rhonda was on the news last week regarding Martha Stewart having to do time in prison. She gave her opinion based on her own time in jail for DUI's.

Is Rhonda in trouble?

Is Rhonda profosessional with the house guests she's coaching? Many watchers say no and apparently Rhonda's colleagues agree. According to someone in the know,'The coaching association of which Rhonda is a member is also examining the practices on this show. So far, they have expressed concern and are meeting to decide what to do.'

Also, Rhonda and Rana appear to be offering counseling to the house guests instead of coaching. The state of Illinois requires licenses for counseling and the show is being investigated for violating the law.

An email from Rhonda

A fan of the show emailed Rhonda regarding Audrey's behavior just prior to her graduation and here's the response Rhonda sent via email:

Let me see if I can answer your questions:
I would like to ask you if you really felt Audrey was right in her reaction.
Audrey is a highly charged emotional person who has a hard time looking outside of herself. Was her reaction the best it could be? Absolutely not. What you didn't see on SO is I asked her what she could have done differently that evening. She was out of line asking the ladies of SO to choose between her and Karen yet Karen basically was asking the same thing. They both wanted to 'test' the other women. Audrey just did it "Audrey's way" which is not enrolling. The other women chose Karen. And that is where the fight began...and continued all night until the next day. Audrey was off base when she wouldn't get a table for all the women for them to eat dinner with her. Everyone contributed to the fight that night. I don't think anyone is innocent. I know when I left the theatre that night..PJ was going with Karen and the rest of the ladies were going with Audrey so something happened after that that turned the tide.

It certainly seemed that she was your chosen one.

I have heard this said a few times and I think it is interesting. Audrey? My chosen one?!? I was Audrey's lead coach. We spent more time together and I supported her in her goal. It was a difficult experience since Audrey didn't want coaching she just wanted cheerleading. I can do that yet I always want to go deeper. Audrey was not open to changing and I told her that repeatedly. Yet, her goal was to become a singer and songwriter. I repeatedly told her "your talent lies in songwriting" and I still believe that is where her strength lies. She wasn't open to hearing anything else no matter how many experts I brought in. I had to stay very focused with Audrey about what I 'could' do. What changes 'could' I make. My policy is I am not here to judge your dream or your talent. My job is to make your dream happen. And I helped Audrey do it. Yet, obviously Audrey being 'my chosen one' is hard to swallow since you noticed she thanked Rana rather than me at her graduation. And they only had one session together. Audrey was a challenge to coach and I did what I could with the opening I had.

Do you every read the message boards?

No. It is too painful. And I tell all my family and friends to only tell me the good stuff. I get hurt too!

I was very saddened that she was allowed to graduate.
She completed her goal as defined by the SO house. It is similiar to Cassie or Maureen. Cassie or Maureen did not dramatically change their emotions or personalitiies but they did accomplish their 'goal.' Same goes for Audrey. But I understand your frustration. Take your frustration with watching it and multiple it by a hundred and that is probably what it felt like in the SO house to go through it.

Why was Audrey never called to a BOR?

Audrey did have a BOR. And her housemates called her on her behavior. And her housemates knew how she was treating me. Yet, Audrey - as she shared many times - she feels like an outsider always. She believes that people don't like her so there is little chance of making an impact if the person thinks they are not the problem.

Audrey was a challenge and a heartache for me. Yet, she did accomplish her goal. I stayed true to my commitment to her talent for songwriting which I believe she does have. I think she can write songs and if she chooses to pursue it, will do well.

I hope these answers support you. I appreciate you asking in a thoughtful and kind way. I have learned not to respond to emails that are anger and hurtful. I felt you were sincerely wanting answers so I am sharing my thoughts with you. Thank you for your willingness to frame your email in a way that inspired me to reply.

I hope SO continues to inspire and support you in making changes in your life.

And keep watching.....Karen and I are about to get into it!

Working on being Fearless,
Rhonda