March 31, 2005 Spoiler
Thanks to the contributer of this spoiler:
Rachel is carrying around a calculator and saying to look at how much her aunt spent of her money to send her away to school in Montana. It’s not til she shows it to Candy that Candy yells, “oh my God!”
Tess is meeting with Rhonda. Rhonda says that Tess doesn’t really even know what love is. She tells Tess that she is to call her mother, father, sister and husband and ask how she gives them love. And if she feels courageous enough she can ask some of her housemates.
Candy is meeting with Iyanla and they say that Robert is coming to the house today. Iyanla asks her what she wants to communicate to him when he visits. Candy, says “that I’m okay.” And she is crying and Iyanla asks why she is crying and Candysays that she didn’t think she would ever be able to say that to him. Iyanla says that Candy has thought tht her long hair is the one thing that was feminine for her and asks her if she is ready to cut it. I guess she is going to get it cut before Robert comes. Iyanla is laughing and saying that she is excited. Candy looks like a deer in headlights.
Iyanla leads group. She tells the women to take deep breaths and find their centers Tess starts crying in group and Iyanla is looking at her and Tess just keeps crying and Iyanla says, “if I stare at you, do you think you can tell me why you are crying or do I need to ask?” Tess says that she realizes that her problems are not just with her husband. That she realizes she has issues with her mother and other women.” In confessional Iyanla says that she is not feeling Tess’ energy and thinks that this is not a true breakthrough but Tess wanting attention. Allison says that she is jealous of Tess’ breakthrough. Iyanla asks her what else she is jealous of and Allison says that she is jealous of the good health of the otheres and some other stuff. Iyanla talks about how toxic jealousy. The others add their own jealousy. Tess chimes in that she is her own toxin and Iyanla stops her and starts sniffing the air and says that she smells a lie. Tess says that she doesn’t feel she is lying. They point out that her saying she hasn’t lost her “baby weight” is a toxin and her marriage is a toxin. Iyanla says that you have to speak your mind to rid yourself of the toxins and wants the women to make it a detoxing day.
Rhonda takes Bethany for another walk to discuss where she is in her steps. Rhonda says that Bethany is not getting over her walls. Rhonda asks her about how she used to love to sing in front of others and now she can’t. Bethany says it is because she is afraid she will hyperventilate and can’t do it. Rhonda says that is an example of Bethany running into these brick walls. Nothing has changed in her singing ability but Bethany wants it to be nothing less than perfect, so she just sets up a wall and doesn’t do it at all. Rhonda tells her that she can hope and dream all she wants but if she puts up the walls she will do nothing. So they are at a fake brick wall and Rhonda is telling her to name her brick walls and having her use a spray can of paint to write what is stopping her. She writes too fat, not good enough, Jessica is better, ugly, hopeless and bunches of others.
Rachel is on the phone with her friend Jamal about what is going on with he Aunt Ellen. He is telling her not to let Ellen be the end of the world to her. She should not let her aunt disrespect her just so she will love her.
Robert shows up at the house. Vanessa takes Robert to the guest room and tells him that she isn’t sure how long Candy is out for. Then we see Candy at the salon. Allison is with her.
Iyanla comes to the house and sits down to talk to Robert. She asks if he has noticed changes in her and he says that she is very happy to be there and that she is doing things she never would have done before. Iyanla tells Robert about Candy telling her the story of a time when she and Robert went dancing and he had told her to let him lead. Iyanla says that while Candy is out she is having a dance instructor come in to give him a dance lesson. Iyanla says that they are sending them out to dinner and she asks him that when they return to the house would he ask her to dance with him and see if she lets him lead.
Tess calls her husband and says that she wants to ask him how she gives him love. He says with affection but then he says that sometimes what she says and what she does is two different things. He mentions something about the evil side to her. Then she asks how she withholds love. He says by lying and hanging out all night and disrespecting. She asks if there is anything else and he said there probably is but he needs to think about it. She says that she knows he is driving right now and doesn’t want him to have a wreck so they will talk more later.
The dance instructor comes and starts to teach Robert.
Candy tells the woman who is going to cut her hair that she would like it lighter but not real blond and she is trusting her to cut her hair the way she thinks is best. Candy is nervous.
Back to Rhonda and Bethany. Rhonda says that none of this is new and every time they talk about it, Bethany says she is ready to change but she doesn’t make the change. Rhonda has her tear down the wall and asks her if she is really ready. Bethany starts to cry.
Rachel meets with Iyanla. Rachel says that she is so angry that she is just about ready to explode. Iyanla says in confessional that these toxins are very tough for Rachel because they are family members but she can set some very clear boundaries. Iyanla says to Rachel that they will start by talking about Aunt Ellen. (dang it, I don’t think we will see the confrontation today either!)
Iyanla says that she has heard that Rachel say to her that she wants to sue her aunt and to have her removed from the trust. Rachel says that she is open to keeping her on the trust fund if Ellen answers some questions. Iyanla says that she knows that Rachel is angry about the $175,000 (yep that much!) that was spent to send her to that school. Iyanla has Rachel label plates with her anger issues.
Tess calls her mom and asks her how she gives her love. Her mom says that that is hard to answer. She says that Tess will tell her she loves her but that she is not real physical, she isn’t a hugger. Tess asks how she withholds her love and she says that she ignores her and won’t call her.
Rachel is breaking plates. She is angry that Ellen sent her to live with a black family that didn’t even want her. That Ellen didn’t follow her mother’s wishes. That when Rachel visited she was made to feel unwelcome and mad to sleep on the couch. When she asked her aunt why she didn’t let her live with her she said it was because she was an incorrigible brat. Iyanla lays on the grass with her and asks her what she wants to do and Rachel says she wants to call her. Iyanla says in confessional that Aunt Ellen has no idea that that frightened 12 year old is gone and there is a self assured young woman standing up for herself confronting her.
Tess calls her sister Torrei and asks her how she shows her love and she answers that she has no idea. Tess asks how she withholds love and Torrei says she was always afraid to tell her she loved her because Tess would tell her to shut up.
Candy comes home and her hair is just a little past her shoulders and parted on the sid and straight. Robert has a big smile on his face and he has a rose for her. They leave in a stretch limo and go to dinner. Robert tells her at dinner that he is so glad she came to the house. When they get back to the house Robert tells Candy that he has a surprise for her and he takes her in the house and tells her that he had a dance lesson and they dance by fire light. She is so happy and says that she is never going back to the way she was. Iyanla says in confessional that she asked Robert to deliver one more surprise for her and that he is to tell Candy that she is graduating the next day!
Rachel calls Aunt Ellen and says that she has a couple questions for her and Ellen says that she will not answer any questions for her and Rachel is doing that nervous laugh and says okay then can she send them to her in writing and Ellen says no that she will not participate in anything. Rachel is so in shock that she is still doing that little laugh and asking her, “you won’t answer any questions, even in a letter?” and Ellen says no and hangs up. Rachel is laughing saying this is bad and dialing the phone. (I assume she is calling Iyanla but that is the end.)
Preview- Candy graduates! She says that the house saved her life.
Allison is with Iyanla and Iyanla asks her why did she fight for her life, why didn’t she just die?
Bethany faces another health crisis. She is telling Rhonda that she doesn’t like that feeling, she just freaks out.
Posted by inthestars at March 31, 2005 04:43 AM
