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Dec 20th Episode Summary

Here's a summary of the Dec 20th episode that someone saw this week:

Towanda went and got her hair done for for her performance. It's long shoulder length hair with bangs, she meets with her singing coach who is frank about her really feeling the song and not having dead eyes while she sings, Towanda is going to really think about what she says so she'll do well.
Cassie writes a long letter to Rhonda about how she's in the house to learn to speak up and be heard and no one is hearing her about her hair and she hates it- she signs it just "Cassie" and shows it to Sommer and Renee and stresses that she didn't sign it "thanks, Cassie", the women agree if that's how she feels then she should share it with Rhonda.
Iyanla holds group and has gives the women each a peacock feather. She tells them each to look at the eye of the feather and balance the long feather on their finger while focusing on the eye thinking of themselves and they're issues and how they can overcome/achieve. Renee can't balance it at all and she gets a bit annoyed that she isn't able to do it. Towanda is balancing it the best. Cassie is balancing it well and is even spinning circles to make sure it doesn't fall. Iyanla is explaining that you have to move with the obstacles and go with the flow to keep focus on the task at hand.
Renee and Iyala meet. They are talking about bad things that have happened to here that have brought her to where she is today. There is a posterboard. Renee writes "Daddy took $" then some other mildly significantly things like someone stole her identity to buy a cellphone and pizza once. Then Iyanla prods her quite a bit. Renee pauses, and say "something happened when I was little but...." Iyanla very talentedly I might add keeps it going so Renee can't stop to think. Renee goes on to say it was a secret and it happened when she was 7 or 8. And she told her mom when she was older and her mom didn't believe her. Renee is starting to cry. Iyanla says if it's too hard for her to do it in 3rd person. Iyanla asks what happened to her. Renee goes on to tell her that a friend of her family a man that was babysitting her and a friend molested them. He told them not to tell, and made it seem ok at the time. She felt dirty and never told her dad. And hasn't talked about it in a long long time. She's crying. Iyanla hug her and says it happend to her to when she was 9 by a man she knew to. Renee says that the molester committed suicide a few years back and it was the best day of her life. Iyanla just holds her and tells her they are finally ready to move forward for her. She gives her a stone and tells her that night to drop it into the pool and watch the rings it creates, because those are the rings of the people that know what this feels like and that she's not alone. She tells her to take it easy tonight and be gentle to herself.
Rhonda and Cassie meet. Cassie reads her the letter. Rhonda is pleased that Cassie is so upset about something. She explains that for the first time she is meeting the real Cassie. Rhonda comes back later wearing a dark brown wig with bangs, Rhonda asks if she is any different of a person for the hair change. Cassie says she gets it and appologizes. Then at the end asks for extra highlights saying after all she's a women... Rhonda says you're obviously are not getting it IT'S NOT ABOUT THE HAIR it's about the feelings the hair brings up???!!!
Renee is a raw nerve and kind of picks a little fight with Rachel about Rachel not cleaning up a mess she's made in the kitchen. Rachel gets in her face and says "I'm right here and I'm getting to it" and acts kinda bullyish and teenagerish IMO.
Denise,Cassie and Rachel go to Target. Denise says that she is sick of Sommer. They start talking about Sommer talking to the production people and how it is interfering with things. Denise is suprised and doesn't seem to see any of this going on. Rachel starts dogging on Renee and says that whatever Sommer does Renee does and how Renee is there for the wrong reasons. The carload seems to agree that Renee doesn't belong in the house. Meanwhile Sommer is at the house telling Renee that she thinks Rachel is a big phoney and she doesn't think any of the tears are real.
Everyone is back at the house. Renee sits at the table by Cassie and Renee starts to talk to her sadly but on edge about "I heard that you all talked about how I don't belong in the house..." (not sure how she found out BTW...) Rachel overhears and starts saying something and says intimidatinly "do you want me to be part of this conversation?" Renee snidly says "I'm talking to Cassie!" Rachel goes down to the computer where she can hear everything. Renee starts reading from her journal to Cassie about her feeling and is basically talking about Rachel, Cassie is obviously in the middle, and Cassie says "I've never really had a real emotional converstion with you Renee" and Renee says loudly (the tention is high Denise is on the phone holding it up for whomever to listen...) "then don't let Rachel decide for you if I belong in the house make up your mind yourself don't let her decide for you!" Rachel jumps up throws her arms up and starts yelling at Renee and is coming closer to her and yells "You're just here to drink and meet boys that's it" Then it shows Denise holding the phone up toward the argument (we don't know who is on the phone) she's on her knees cleaning up a wine glass that has broken next to the table by the phone.