Wednesday Nov 17th Spoiler
Here's the spoiler for Wednesday, November 17th:
Jennifer calls her mom and says that they have to have a conversation and that she has been putting it off and so she is just going to get it over with. Jennifer tells her mom that she doesn’t think that they have a relationship and she takes the blame for that. She tells her that she was angry with her for years for her mom staying with her dad even though he was dealing drugs, but she knows now that her mom’s marriage is none of her business and she is sorry. Her mom tells her that she accepts her apology.
It is Iyanla’s birthday and Kim and Jennifer give her a card and flowers.
Iyanla meets with Jennifer and Kim together and Jennifer tells her that she called her mom and Kim said she tried to call her sister all weekend and she called her husband and her dad to see if they knew where Kelly was. They didn’t. So Iyanla is taking Kim and Jennifer to Denver to meet with Kelly and Jennifer’s dad. Iyanla gives paper to both and tells them to write letters to tell them that they are coming. Jennifer asks if she really has to go to Denver, since this could all be taken care of over the phone. Iyanla said they are all going. Kim and Jennifer are both freaked out. Kim asks Iyanla how long they are staying and Iyanla says, “until I get a tan!” Kim says, “very funny!” Iyanla also tells Jennifer that she is to write a life plan to give her. Iyanla says this is getting them ready to leave the house. Jennifer’s meeting with her dad will be on the phone anyway when they are in Denver.
Iyanla meets with Towanda. T wrote a letter to her dad. She asked him to forgive her for being judgmental and that she wants a relationship with him. She says it made her sad to hear that he has no pictures of his children in his house. It is like they have been erased from his life. She wants a fresh start. Iyanla gets out the board and says for T to state what she wants from her dad and Iyanla is going to write it down.
Dr. Stan meets with Jennifer. Jennifer says she is ready to graduate. He asks what does she think she hasn’t done to the satisfaction of her coach. She tells him that she has to go to Denver and she is just pretending to be excited about it. She says that she feels that as an adult she should be able to choose what relationships she wants in her life. She feels that a relationship with her dad would just be a negative. Dr. Stan tells her that he feels that sometimes Jennifer is just doing what she is told to do but her heart isn’t in it. And she said that that is true because she doesn’t see the point in some things she is told to do.
Jennifer starts crying and she says that she doesn’t like to think she is the only one trying. She said that if he wanted a relationship, why didn’t he ever answer her letters? Dr. Stan asks her if she realizes that she just wrote her letter and she just shared it with the “wrong” person, she needs to put it on paper and send it to her dad.
Iyanla is meeting with Towanda. Iyanla is happy with T’s letter to her dad and tells her to send it to him.
Dr. Stan meets in group and the subject is confrontation. He wants to see what they think confrontation is and he is wanting to show them that there is healthy confrontations. Kim says for her experience it is never healthy, it is an argument. Towanda agrees that in the past it is negative and now she is seeing that it can be just letting her feeling be known. He announces that there is a BOR tonight. Of course there are the clips from the women on who they think are be called up. Towanda thinks she is going to be called up, Josie says she thinks she is and she feels good about it. Kim says that she doesn’t think it is her or Jennifer because they had been up recently, but you never know.
Jennifer calls her mom and says that they are coming to Denver to see her.
Its BOR time. Jennifer is called up and she is unprepared. What is she doing well? I have 100% effort dealing with my goal. She thinks that after the last BOR she has stepped up to the plate. What does she still need to work on? Her father. She says she feels like she has just given and given and she gets no response. She starts crying. She says that she has poured her heart in to them. Iyanla asks if she has really done that, because what they tend to receive is what they send out. Iyanla asks her what does she still need to work on? Jennifer says that she needs to be honest with her dad. Iyanla says that she needs to see that she needs to be honest with herself and that she can’t do the one without first owning up to herself. Iyanla asks Jennifer if she was to grade herself today, what would it be. Jennifer says that after today, she would give herself a B. The LC’s ask for hg feedback. Josie and Kim say positives. The they ask if Jennifer should stay or go. Of course they all think she should stay. Now it is Iyanla’s turn. She says that this is hard. She says that Jennifer has made a 180 degree turnaround and that is AAA work, but she has figured out how to manipulate the system and she thinks Jennifer is now just focused on how to graduate. Jennifer says that she realizes today that she is able to talk about her dad’s past but that it is still painful to think of her actual relationship with him. Iyanla says that Jennifer is on the verge on a total breakthrough and that Jennifer has to be willing to feel the pain in order to heal. Jennifer reads a paper she wrote about what she is felling and done. Everyone is crying. Iyanla asks Jennifer what she wants. She answers to heal and her other standard answers and Iyanla tells her not to look away from her and to tell her what she wants and Jennifer finally admits that she wants her father to love her. The hg’s are just crying their eyes out. Rhonda has her clipboard and says to Iyanla that she thinks that maybe they should change their minds about they had talked about before the BOR and Iyanla says that she doesn’t know (you can tell they are messing with Jennifer) and Rhonda says she knows that she is the nice sweet LC but she thinks that they should change their minds. Iyanla has her clipboard up and says that since Jennifer has stepped up to the task, she gives her an A+. Poor Jennifer is so drained from the whole process that she is barely able to smile. Rhonda tells Josie to go get Chloe.
Rhonda and Iyanla have a good time reviewing Chloe. Telling her that she needs to stay focused on what they are saying and asking her what she still needs to work on, they say walking. It is all tongue in cheek. Then they tell Chloe that she will probably need to stay in the house the rest of her life so they can tell her that they love her and review her on a regular basis. Josie and Chloe sit down and Iyanla asks Josie if she thinks that she is properly dressed for a BOR and Josie says yes she has slacks on. (and a tank top and funky hat). So Rhonda and Iyanla tell her to go up to the podium. I think they are yanking her chain too at this point. They ask her what she has done well and they ask the hg’s what she has improved on and they all say her tantrums and being open. Rhonda tells her that she is graduating and Josie and Chloe are graduating at 4pm that day. Wow, that is quick. Cassie is sad to see Josie go. Josie calls her mom and she is crying and calling her mom to tell her she is coming home. Rhonda saying in confessional that the women are in for a big surprise when they see who is coming for Josie’s graduation.
Preview- They have the graduation party for Josie and Chloe has on the outfit that Grandma had got her. Then it says that the party takes an ugly turn and it shows Josie running through the house with Chloe and then at the ambulance saying that her breathing sounded horrible. Towanda gets devastating news.
Posted by inthestars at November 17, 2004 07:14 AM
