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Tuesday October 5th Spoiler

Here's the spoiler for Tuesday October 5th:

>b>Sinae has picked Jennifer to take out to breakfast. They are walking to the bus stop and Jennifer is saying that she doesn’t do publice transportation. Sinae says if they are lucky they will see one crazy person to talk about and Jennifer says that crazy people kidnap people and Sinae says that if that happens they will stand in the middle of the street and hail a cab. Sinae basically tells Jennifer to buck up. Jennifer is impressed with how well Sinae is able to get around on the bus.
Kim calls Iyanla and asks if she can have a reprieve today since her daughters are coming. Kim tells Iyanla that she will just wear a little make up and will tone herself down. Iyanla in confession saying that she knows there is more to this than what Kim says. But Iyanla says that she can have a reprieve today but she is back to sweats and no make up the next day. (I think Kim is embarrassed for her daughters to see her like that). As soon as Kim hangs up she tells Towanda that get got a reprieve and throws her sweat shirt at her and says she is going to put so much make up on she will look like a hooker. Towanda yells that it is 920am and Kim is running off.
Sommer meets with Rhonda and they talk about her being a people pleaser. Sommer says she doesn’t understand what the difference is between being a people please and just being nice. Rhonda said that this assignment should make it clear to her. Sommer has to be the ultimate people pleaser. So she is dressed like a 50’s housewife and she has to be the ultimate people pleaser.
Kim is downstairs slathering on makeup and tearing clothes out of her closet and Iyanla calls. In confession cam Iyanla says she is calling to check to see exactly what a “little bit” of makeup and jewelry and whatever is going to look like. (See Kim has already lied and told Iyanla she was just going to put on a little and then hung up the phone and told Towanda she was going to look like a hooker.)
So Iyanla asks Kim why she wants to wear her stuff. Kim says it is two-fold. One she wants to see if it feels different to her and secondly, she will be out with her daughters and she wants to wear her wedding ring and she wants to know what time it is.
Iyanla tells her that she still thinks Kim wants her mask to hide her ugliness from her daughters and of course Kim “isn’t feeling it”. Kim says it has been 7 days and she doesn’t feel any different today than if she had been able to wear her stuff the last 7 days. Iyanla tries to explain to her that that is the problem. She isn’t feeling.
Sinae and Jennifer are heading home and they are walking and I guess that Kim was supposed to meet them somewhere to pick them up and they are walking saying, “Come on Kim, where are you?” Then there is Kim and they comment on her having reall clothes on. Kim takes off her sunglasses and asks how her makeup looks and Jennifer says that she thinks Kim looks better without makeup. That didn’t go over well.
Sommer is dusting continuously and offering to do every little thing and they are calling her the stepford wife. Then Kim in confessional says she plans on taking advantage of it and asks Sommer to run the vacuum in the guest room and dust since her daughters are coming.
Sommer fixes lunch for the women and she is really getting on Towanda and Kim’s nerves. (Kim really has a mean streak in her and it is starting to show.) So then we have group and Rhonda asks how it went. Of course none of the women liked it. I think Josie is the only one who found it amusing. Kim just keeps going on and on about how two faced it makes Sommer appear. Then Sommer in confession cam saying she is thinking of the saying, “Thou dost protest too much.” And that She thinks that Kim is not to be trusted.
Towanda meets with Dr. Stan and he asks how she is and she answers “good” and he says “If you are good, then why are you here?” Towanda said that she just meant that she was doing alright not that all was well with her in the house. They talk and it gets around to Towanda saying that she didn’t feel like Iyanla actually listened to her and Dr. Stan told her that she needs to make this known to Iyanla.
Back to group, Rhonda asks the other women how they react to uncomfortable situations and they all say they shut down except for Sommer. Then Kim says that she probably is a people pleaser too. Rhonda tells Sommer to continue on for the rest of the day.
Rhonda asks Kim what her intention is when her daughters are here. Is she going to be real? Kim says she is going to try to. That her daughters have no idea how unhappy she is. So when the meeting ends Rhonda tells Kim to be real. Also Sinae is the first hg to earn a step. She earned her “accept blindness” step.
The women are sitting around and Kim tells Sommer that if she is supposed to do whatever it takes to make her happy then she should tell Iyanla that Kim should be able to have all her stuff for her daughters entire visit. Sommer smiles and said that isn’t possible. (Kim is really getting whacked out). Kim’s two daughters, Chelsea and Snowden finally arrive and they seem surprised that their mom cries when she is hugging them.
Towanda meets with Iyanla and Iyanla wants to discuss the fact that Towanda still does not trust her. Iyanla tells Towanda that she does not accept responsibility and she blames on others when she doesn’t like what she sees. That no matter what Towanda is right and if anyone makes her feel that she is not right than it isn’t Towanda’s fault. Iyanla said she no longer is going to put her heart and soul in to this. She wants Towanda to tell her exactly what she wants her to do and react. Towanda just sits there but in confession cam she says that she thinks Iyanla is just punishing her for being honest with her.
Iyanla comes to meet Kim’s daughters and she walks in and looks at Kim and says, “This is NOT a little bit of anything.” Kim starts arguing that it is. Iyanla tells her to remember that she will be back to her real self the next day and Kim says that this is the real her. Then she acts like it is news to her that she has to go to au natural tomorrow. Iyanla is disgusted and tells Kim that they will talk tomorrow. Kim is in the kitchen talking to Josie and Josie tells her that she thinks that she will lose everything tomorrow. She says that she thinks that Iyanla will physically take her stuff away so that Kim can’t even look at it. Kim is trying to tell Josie that she lived up to the deal she made with Iyanla and they are showing clips of the phone conversation and Kim lied big time. So Kim comes out to her daughters and they ask if she is in trouble and she says yes but she will worry about tomorrow.
Towanda calls her husband and tells him that Iyanla told her that she doesn’t take responsibility and wants to always be right and if she isn’t that she plays the blame game. Her husband tells her that he agrees with Iyanla which really blows her away. She says in confession cam that if her husband agrees with Iyanla then it must be true.
Kim is out shopping with her daughters and Jennifer and Josie are home talking about how Kim just doesn’t get it and they are curious to see how Iyanla reacts tomorrow.
Towanda calls Iyanla and says that she had an epiphany and that she now realizes that it was herself she didn’t trust with Iyanla. In confession cam Towanda says that she is the only one in the house who hasn’t cried.
Rhonda meets with Sommer and Sommer says it was exhausting and time consuming to be such a pleaser and she does not want to do it in life anymore. (a little side note, while Rhonda is talking to Sommer and getting ready to take her make up off, you can see Kim and her daughters outside the window staring in. How rude is that?)
Kim’s daughters tell her that they don’t see the point to the exercise either. Oh I can’t wait to see what happens with Iyanla.
Preview-
The women are in group and Sommer says that she found out that not only had Kim been lying to her that she had also taken something from her.
Iyanla in one on one with Kim telling her that she has to admit that she was dishonest with her. Iyanla says, “You did not misunderstand. You need to take responsibility for it and you were dishonest. You told me a little to get what you wanted and you did not live up to our agreement.” Then you see Kim out somewhere with her daughters and she is on her cell phone saying, “you manipulated, exploited and humiliated me and I don’t want to talk to you right now.”